…that is born of a woman is of few days, and full of trouble. Job 14:1 KJV

When a family loses a member, the loss is felt by all. One person passes and someone loses a cousin, an aunt, a niece, a sister, or a nephew, a father, an uncle, or a brother.  Either way the ripples in the family pond emanate outward.  Is the pain felt equally across the board?  Perhaps it should not be proper to express condolences laced with insinuations of a greater loss on their behalf than the one felt by oneself.  Maybe one should not implicate that one’s loss is felt deeper than another; rather, emphasize the pain felt by all as a means to unite for the purpose of communal grieving with the aim of getting through the ordeal together.  For is not that everyone’s common experience – the  inevitable heartache that life won’t let us be exempt from?  Are not loss, death, tears, and trials the sum of the human condition?  After all, does not Job say, “Man’s days are few and full of trouble”?  Do we not all go through life with fortified resolve on stand-by, while in practice we fail to acknowledge that we’ll be faced with the unfaceable one day?  Why else do we go days, weeks, months, and, yes, years without telling family that we value them?  Why don’t we show them that they are loved?  Is this a flaw in the human condition?  I believe it is. 

Eric Ellis, Student